Everyone experiences conflicts in marriage and Christians are no exception. There is no reason to feel ashamed or overwhelmed because of the conflict. It is unavoidable and completely natural. Want you need to remember to do is deal with it in a healthy way. Here are some things that can be done to resolve conflict and avoid divorce in your Christian marriage: Pray any time you get the chance. Even though it seems obvious, when Christian couples become angered and frustrated, they really need to take the time to pray before they speak with the other person. This will allow you to center yourself and remind yourself that God is working on you and your relationship. It will remind you to work with God as well. Praying will allow you to find a calm and find proper answers for dealing with the issues you are having. Choose to return to the aisle. This is a great method. “Remember how you felt when you were happy,” is something most marriage counselors will advise you to do. I believe this should be taken a step further. Think back to the way you felt when you walked down the aisle. All of the excitement and positivity that was radiating from you. The excitement and positivity is still there, you just have to find it again. Try to stop keeping score and mend your wounds. Hit restart to get those great feelings back into your marriage.
You must communicate and figure it out. A few weeks ago I went to a library and thought there was going to be a fight between two men. The event started out with one man saying “is there going to be a problem?” This is when I thought it was all going to bust loose, but it didn’t. Instead of starting a fight, the man continued with “if there is a problem then let’s find a solution.” It is imperative to recognize the problem and communicate in order to fix it. It is really much simpler than we make it out to be sometimes.
Intimacy conflict. This is another common problem in Christian couples. Sometimes is can create issue that intimacy problems are not openly discussed within the church. Simple questions often want to be asked such as how often should the couple be having sex and what is allowed in the bedroom? It can cause great frustration if the couple feels that have no one to ask. Many books and videos are available to help Christian couples with intimacy. The couple may also want to consider reaching out to a Christian based counselor to help with intimacy questions. These are only a couple of things we often see in Christian marriages. It is time to start communicating and seek out help as well. Avoid divorce by working with God to heal our marriages.